NY Post: Melting Not – Why Young People Like Me Started Dating Within Our Race

Reporter Raakhee Mirchandani & her fiancee

Reporter Raakhee Mirchandani & her fiancee

An article by Raakhee Mirchandani, a features reporter for the New York Post. I came upon a mention of the article (dated March 14 2009) from Anna John’s HERstory blog, and it took me some time to locate the original article — Melting Not – Why Young People Like Me Started Dating Within Our Race.

Interesting article, which is similar to, I think, a few others, and partly my own.  I was open to dating non-Indians back then, but I knew there was something in my heart a little special about that exciting, pretty, Indian woman who later became my wife.  Everyone has to find their own “someone special”, and I do believe that you can only be happier when that special someone shares some of your interests, understands where you come from, and what’s important to you.

Again, I’m not a person who subscribes or preaches that for “You have to marry someone from the same race!” for the ultimate relationship happiness. That’s something people from my parents’ generation has always chanted. However, if you are both coming from the same culture, you are already starting the foundation on a relationship from the same core value — be it spiritual, cultural, or whatever. For me, finding someone who could also appreciate some good gulab jamun or a masala dosa (not to mention being very funny) really hits you.

I think the same applied to my wife, but you can always ask her for her side of the story. She’ll tell you that I was a jerk, but she’s just talking about today. 😉

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NY Post: Homeless beggar jars are a sham, NY AG files suit

I knew it! Those UHO jugs and hawkers begging for your donations is a scam! If you work or visit NYC, you will often see these people standing on street corners next to a large table with a banner for the United Homeless Organization (or UHO), collecting donations in large water jugs.  Supposedly, all donations were going to the homeless.  I’ve seen them since I started working in the city back in 1999, but UHO has apparently been around since 1985.

IT’S A SCAM!

Just in time for the holidays, state authorities are going for the jug-ular — seeking to banish forever the panhandling pests who clog Manhattan’s busiest corners with folding tables and plastic water bottles.

State Attorney General Andrew Cuomo filed suit yesterday, charging the United Homeless Organization is a scam run by con artists who pocket most of the change they collect — hundreds of thousands of dollars a year.

The beggars — most of whom claim to be street people — say that the money tossed into their jugs goes to the homeless. And it does, the suit says. They just don’t bother to say they’re talking about themselves.

An unidentified man solicits donations for the United Homeless Organization on Seventh Avenue near Penn Station Monday, Nov. 23, 2009 in New York. (N.Y.Post/Chad Rachman)

An unidentified man solicits donations for the United Homeless Organization on Seventh Avenue near Penn Station Monday, Nov. 23, 2009 in New York. (N.Y.Post/Chad Rachman)

The whole sham is run by these two individuals who collect a cover charge or rental fee for the material. It doesn’t go to help the homeless, except the actual person who is renting the table, banner, and water jug. This stuff makes me so mad. I read this, and my jaw dropped.  I suspected, much like I’m suspicious of anyone panhandling, yet I still couldn’t believe I was right.

For you long-time readers, you may remember my incident back in August 2003 (see the August 25 2003 entry) when a scam artist tried to scam me twice in the same month, at both Penn Station and Grand Central Terminal, in less than two weeks. Well, scammed me the first time at Penn and got $5 out of the goodness of my heart. Suffice it to say, I was shocked to see the same guy trying the same scam on me a week later. What are the odds?

I do not give out any money to people on the street. They are scam artists, and are not going to use it for food.  They are going to use it for booze or drugs.  That’s right. I said it.  That’s what I believe. I will continue to donate to regular charities, but never again in my life will I give a handout.

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Something about teenage girls really annoys me

This is going to bite me in the butt later when my daughter Lily hits her teens, and I’m not looking forward to it. I really don’t understand that whole screaming and swooning.  Case in point — Recently some Canadian teen sensation Justin Bieber was due to show up at the Roosevelt Field Mall in Nassau county, NY (one of the largest malls in NYS.)  Mr. Beiber didn’t show up for a  while, and the mob of screaming women grew until it became a problem. He never showed up, and they had to disperse the crowd.  Watch the embedded video below. Aren’t teenage girls nuts?

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Empire Records (1995)

Another example of my attempts to catch up on all the classic movies that I’ve missed and should have watched, I recently watched Empire Records. It’s an old 1995 movie starring a few big 90’s stars like Liv Tyler, Anthony LaPaglia, Robin Tunney, Renee Zellweger, Ethan Embry, and even Demi Mazar.  If you haven’t seen it, it’s a movie about a day in the life of some record store employees.  I just thought about how dated this movie is.  A record store? Mix tapes? I wonder how that FYE and those other record stores still in existence are performing?

I digress.  This movie felt like a retread of sorts of The Breakfast Club, or maybe a lot of these teenager/twentie’s movies are all the same. I didn’t particularly like this movie.  While I watched this movie, the words “So what?” kept flashing across the screen for me. I was interested in seeing the aforementioned stars when they were younger (geez, Anthony LaPaglia and Renee Zellweger look unbelievebly young.) I also like some of the background music. One of the reasons I wanted to see this movie was the “good soundtrack” I heard about, and I already had “A Girl Like You” by Edwyn Collins. I think I’ll check out the rest of the soundtrack on iTunes.

Empire Records (1995)

Empire Records (1995)

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Windows 7 themes are cool and free

One of the features that I love about Windows 7 are the many desktop themes that are freely available. If you haven’t found them yet, Microsoft offers a Windows 7 Personalization Gallery that offers many free ones for download. Windows 95 and later offered theme packs for purchase, but if you were cheap like me, you had to look online to find free ones of varying quality.

Arches National Park, Utah

Example free desktop -- Arches National Park, Utah

I recently read that when Windows 7 is initially installed, default themes are installed based on the time zone you select. For example, when you in the US install it from somewhere between the Eastern through the Pacific timezones, you automatically get the US theme. However, there are Indian, Korean, Taiwanese, South Africa themes and more free as well.

As a matter of fact, Computerworld recently published an article that Microsoft has opened up the development of desktop themes to advertisers. I don’t blame them, and think it’s a great idea. Consumers want high quality themes of their favorite products/movies/shows/etc, and corporations can provide that to them.

Check the link I provided to the gallery, open one that you like, and enjoy. I think the wallpapers themselves are absolutely gorgeous.

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Hancock (2008)

On my dayoff, I watched Hancock, the 2008 anti-superhero movie that came out in summer 2008.  Starring Will Smith, Charlize Theron, and Jason Bateman, it came out to mixed reviews.  It’s about Will Smith playing this drunk anti-hero with superpowers, and Jason Bateman as the PR man who tries to resuscitate Hancock’s image.

I’m not big on the anti-hero, as I like my heros….. well, to be heros, super or not.  It wasn’t a bad movie at all, and fairly entertaining. I’m not quite sure why it received negative reviews.  It was definitely nice to see a black superhero.  When’s the last time we saw one of those?  Jon Stewart as Green Lantern?  Luke Cage as Power Man aka the Hero for Hire?

Hancock (2008)

Hancock (2008)

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CNN Money: Dirty secrets of Black Friday ‘doorbusters’

Sounds hot, don’t it?  “Dirty Secrets“?  No, it’s just that while everyone is hot-to-trot about those Black Friday sales, it’s all just a lot of hoopla.  Personally, I’ve never ran to the store in the middle of the night to get a bargain (if that’s what you want to call it), and I never will. Sounds like a plain old scam to me.

Here’s a Black Friday reality check: Of the hordes of pre-dawn shoppers who line up for hours outside stores on the day after Thanksgiving, most will not bag the best bargains that appear in merchants’ circulars.

Look at the fine print that appears next to an advertised “doorbuster deal” at the bottom of the page in this year’s circulars.

It will either say “While supplies last,” “Minimum 2 per store,” “No rainchecks” or “All items are available in limited quantities.”

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I completed my last audit of the year

As of yesterday, I completed work on my last audit of the year, so now I’m “free.”  I say “free”, because I’m going to obviously help out whoever I can, but I’m basically unassigned for now.  Time to do research, help out anyone who needs it, and studying. Studying? Heck ya.  As I roll into the rest of the year, it’s a great opportunity to study and catch up on my continuing education credits (CPEs), back to studying for my CISSP, and learning new things.  It’s also a good time to unwind and start using up the rest of my vacation time.

First order of business, I celebrated.  I bought steaks on Sunday, in preparation for a celebratory dinner.  Monday night, I marinated them, and had them ready for some grilling.  Tuesday night, I asked a friend for more tips on grilling, as I didn’t want to screw up my steaks.  Too late.  I’m not sure what happened, but it all went awry. 

The good news was that the mashed potatoes and the mixed veggies made inside the house before grilling the steaks came out great. However, once I broke out the grill, it went downhill. The left burner wasn’t working properly, so I had the middle and right only to use. I had them up on high to get the grill to 400 degrees.  I put the burgers and steaks on, and came back in 8 mins to flip the steaks and burgers in 8 mins, but they had mostly charcoaled to a crisp on one side.  Out of four steaks and three burgers, one steak was pretty bad, but the other 3 steaks were salvageable.  The burgers were charcoaled to cinders.

Part of the problem was probably that I was trying to grill by a dim outdoor light and a flashlight. Once the steaks were medium-well, I brought them in, and my wife and I spent some time slicing off the charcoaled portions. Still edible, but not the greatest.  I had to throw out the fourth steak (the most charcoaled), and all of the burgers. It was a learning experience, as I’ve never grilled steaks in the dark before. I was a bit depressed, but my wife cheered me up, and we later ate ice cream and watched TV on the couch after the kids went to bed. This week, I gotta check out what’s wrong with the left grill burner.  Next time, I’m going to grill when there’s still light outside.  Grilling by flashlight wasn’t fun.

Second order of business, I took today (Wednesday) off. It was a wonderful day of unstructured time. I dropped the kids off late (9am), ate breakfast while watching TV, and chilled out.  However, in just a short while, I remembered that I’m not a “do nothing and enjoy it” type of person. I get bored, listless, and generally…. feeling guilty.

I did some handyman (handy husband?) stuff in the kitchen to fix and organize the drawers/cabinets that had loose knobs — no easy feat as you have to empty and take apart the drawers to tighten the knobs.  Since I was doing that anyway, my wife had recommended last night that I clean them up while I’m at it.  I did that too. Organized the junk in the drawers that have accumulated like detritus since we moved here in 2005.  I had fun using my cordless drill/driver.

I also vacuumed, reloaded the dishwasher, cleaned up the stove, removed all the infant stuff we don’t need anymore, laundry, took out the trash and recycling, and some other stuff I think. I also made dinner before I picked the kids up in the evening! It was a busy afternoon, and that’s how I like it.  I really do enjoy my free time when I’m accomplishing something!

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It’s alive!!! We have fish again

That post title should be read with your best Dr. Frankenstein impression.  We have fish again. As you may remember, we had a mass ritual suicide in the aquarium back in the beginning of August. Now that Doug helped me by cleaning up the tank, we’re basically ready to jump back in the water, so to speak.

After church on Sunday, we did a run to a local PetSmart in the area, and picked up six new tropical community fish and tall/medium-sized plants.  I figure let me set this tank up right — plants to clean the water and provide shelter (less stressful fish), and fewer fish in the tank to keep it nice and roomy. Let’s see how it goes this time around.

The aquarium is a buzz with life again

The aquarium is a buzz with life again

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A birthday party for Heidi and Pradeesh

On Saturday night, we packed up the kids into the car, and drove to the Marakesh Restaurant in Parsippany to meet up with the gang to celebrate recent birthdays for Heidi and Pradeesh.  Others had been here before, but it was the first time for us. Marakesh serves Moroccan cuisine, which I was a little worried about.  The last time I had moroccan cuisine was at a moroccan restaurant in Rutherford NJ 7-8 years ago.  It was so bad, I had sworn off the entire cuisine.

The food here at Marakesh was much better. We were situated in these large booths around teeny-tiny tables, which was a little awkward, but maybe more authentic?  Well, when in Morocco…… (or at a Moroccan restaurant in Parsippany.) The highlight was the belly dancer, which they feature as the live entertainment every Friday and Saturday night.  She was swell.  😉

Pictures are already posted online, so enjoy!

Heidi dancing with Gabby the belly dancer

Heidi dancing with Gabby the belly dancer

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