My Dad turns 76 this week, so the kids and I took my mother and my father out for dinner at Penang in Lawrenceville (Princeton?) They offer both Malaysian and Thai cuisine, and everything was very good.
I have to be honest and say the family dynamic this past year has been… rough. Let’s be honest that no family is perfect, but you try to make it work. In a perfect world, we’d all be happy, we’d see each other all the time, we’d vacation together, etc. It’s more like a sitcom where there are good days and bad days, good months and bad months. Some days you love your parents, and some days they drive you crazy.
What doesn’t change is that you still love them, and you respect them, especially when you don’t agree with them. As my parents have gotten older, I’ve tried to be more understanding of their situation as aging parents. It’s not easy, but I said I try. They aren’t perfect, but neither am I. My sister and I have often struggled to make them happy, even when it was very difficult for them to see the good things in the world.
In life, all you can do is try. Some days it works. Some days it does not. What can you do? Life is complicated.